Chivalry is Dead

At least that’s how the saying goes. Gasp, you say? After I’ve spent a childhood of Disney movies hoping that “someday my prince will come”, this phrase has been truly wearing me out. Am I supposed to believe that some guy will just take me away and pamper me for the rest of my life? I think not.

You can’t always expect a guy to do everything for you. I’m tired of hearing a lot of girls complain that their man is not doing enough for them. He texted you two minutes too late. He didn’t pay for your dinner. He didn’t call you last night to tell you goodnight. You expect men to do all these crazy things. In the end, if they don’t fulfill them, you rage like a maniac and start venting your frustrations on them, allowing them to think that it’s all their fault that they didn’t meet your expectations.

Tough luck, honey. One phrase one of my guy friends told me sums this idea up.

Girls are crazy. Boys are stupid.

And it is the truth. We complain how guys can’t take a hint. How they can’t tell what we what or if we even like them. Believe me, I’ve been there and dropped hints before, all day urrday. Finally, that phrase eventually got embedded into my skull. Woman, if you want something done, you have to do it yourself. Don’t sit around and complain that they’re not doing anything. Chances are, they haven’t got a clue about what you’re thinking about or expecting from them. Let them know, for crying out loud, instead of bashing them for “oh-so-good-reasons”.

Have you ever talked to guys and made them understand how you’re feeling instead of letting them guess what’s on your mind? Also, you’ve got to take into account their feelings as well. You’re no princess; stop acting like one.

If he didn’t text you quick enough, don’t come to some outrageous conclusion that he’s cheating on you. Suddenly, you go psycho and blast his phone with fifty text messages and voicemails. What is wrong with you?! I know our imaginations can run wild, but he isn’t sitting there staring at his phone, waiting for you to text him. Trust me; I’ve played that scene in my head before too. Guess what? It’s doesn’t really happen. The man has a life too, you know.

Are you kidding me? It’s a good thing he asked you out on a date in the first place. That’s the most that you should expect and take into account. If a guy offers to buy you dinner, then let him. Otherwise, don’t even think twice about letting him dig through the crevices of his pockets just to pay for your share. Money doesn’t grow on trees and is obviously hard to come by.

Finally, he doesn’t always have to take initiative. How about you call him or start the conversation for once. I know what you’re thinking. “If he really likes me, he wouldn’t give up.” Crap. Crappity crap. Le total crap. If you keep trying to make him chase you, sooner or later, he’s bound to give up. Be fair for once and treat him well. Be conscious of his feelings and treat him with respect.

It’s not always about you. Stop being so darn selfish.

Chivalry, ey? I think it’s time that we stopped raising the bar, expecting so much out of men, and appreciate what they can give us. We can do our part too. Maybe if we thought about it this way, we wouldn’t think chivalry was dead after all.

Like any other girl, I would love to be wooed. I wish to be swept off my feet. I want the guy I like to call me in the middle of the night and say “I’m outside your house right now. I thought I’d drop by and see you even just for a little while.” I want him to take me away to watch the city lights as we both dance in the moonlight. I want to cook with him (like a real man should be able to LOL) and wash the dishes with him, while we flick water at each other. Just some of the few things at the top of my head. And it is wishful thinking. Wishful, it is. But I don’t expect the guy to do all these for me. It’s wonderful if he does.

Just appreciate what he has to offer. After all, everything’s better if it’s unexpected.